Do you read a book, take a walk, punch a pillow, pray?
I'm more one to brood or sulk, and I need to get out of this habit!
This is my "Seriously?!" face as a child...I use it more as an adult than I should.
I'm compiling a list and then doing a blog post on my findings later this month.
Thank you in advance ladies- many kisses!
When I'm upset I usually do 1 of 3 things...
ReplyDelete1) Vent to a friend or family member
2) Cry it out :)
3) Write about my feelings in my journal to work through them.
I know that's pretty cliche, but it really helps me.
1) I have long rambling inner dialogues with the source of my upset. These range from the wittiest snarkiest comments I would NEVER say aloud to plotting somewhat evil and highly embarassing revenge scenarios usually involving single eyebrow removal, super-glueing(sp)body parts... Clearly not a useful strategy for when I am sad, but good for mad and upset
ReplyDelete2)I sometimes vent-
3) I clean. SOOOOOO much cleaning that I am exhausted at the end. Highly satisfactory to "impose" a sense of illusory order when it feels as if your world is in wobble orbit and needs to be righted. Also good for reiforcing what a virtuous and worthy person you are for even attempting such an endeavor!In Spring/Summer substitute gardening- creating beauty is a lovely thing. Odddly I cannot quilt, knit or create art when I am sad- only happy energy may go into those projects.
4)Nothing like losing oneself in a great book or books to allow for time to pass and wounds to heal. Living in someone else's reality is sorely underestimated.
5)I sometimes play a marathon session of Bejeweled,Tetrus etc which allows me to think while not thinking- calling for great feats of mental and hand-eye agility whilst allowing my subconcious to sort out a plan of action or better yet helping me avoid preciptous action...
6) I try to find someone else who is needier, sadder,or more overwhelmed and throw myself into doing whatever I can to help them. Sounds like a Pollyanna solution but it often gives perspective to my pity party of one. There is ALWAYS someone with worse problems.
And then there are what I like to call "specialty therapies" these include but are not limited to chocolate, sea salt caramel, peanut butter, and Martinis. (must issue a qualifier here- we all know the saying: One Martini, Two Martini, Three Martini, Floor. I do NOT think that drinking is a solution- in moderation it may help you relax just a teeny bit though) A great Pomegranite Martini, Rum and Mango, Vodka and Cranberry, glass of wine,(not sure why I am capitalizing these drinks?!!) is a happy thing at the end of a stressful day, but even better to celebrate the END of the mad, sad, bad thing that had you hornswoggled!